Introduction: Starting in 2005, my sister Sally took over a small farm in northern Maryland, part of an inheritance from our parents. Sally had never farmed full-time before. Her lifelong interest in gardening was scant preparation for this late-middle-age career transition. Especially at first, Sally struggled. She wanted to run the farm as a biodynamic one, building up the soil and paying special attention to the cycles of seasons, sun, and moon. Gradually, she got an acre or two into biodynamic production, renting much of the remaining acreage to nearby more conventional farmers.
For a biodynamic farmer, “cross-quarter days” are especially important in deciding harvest and planting schedules: Groundhog Day (Imbolc) in early February; May Day (Beltane) at the start of May; midsummer, in early August (Lammas); and Halloween (Samhain) in late October. Sally’s farm work was more than full-time, with scant occasions for the travel she had enjoyed earlier in her varied careers. Over time, she built up a cadre of part-time volunteer assistants. Before covid upended all of our lives, I’d visited the farm several times at different seasons of the year, assisting in a very short-term, minor way.
The covid pandemic impacted nearly everyone. For those of us who survived, our lives “after covid” are different from before. By the time the pandemic took hold in the U.S. in March, 2020, both my sister Sally and I were past 65—Sally in her late 60’s, I in my early 70’s. We were facing aging and mortality from quite different vantage points. I then lived with my husband Jim in a liberal-leaning, rather posh suburb in central North Carolina. Information technology was the prevailing “industry.” The population was awash in Ph.D.’s. My retirement nest egg provided a comfortable living. Sally was still actively working, as sole proprietor of a small Maryland farm and hospitality business in the heart of “Trump country,” where most struggled just to get by. The technical tools I took for granted where I lived in North Carolina were missing, erratic, and/or prohibitively expensive in Sally’s locale. Her internet access was spotty at best. She and I kept in touch mainly through phone calls and letters.
This narrative chronicles the pandemic, its trajectory, and its early aftermath as a series of 27 “cross-quarter day” letters to my sister, corresponding to these harbingers of seasonal change from mid-2020 through late 2026. Prior to covid, we’d both been actively engaged in the civic life of our communities. Covid either terminated or redirected much of this civic activity. Travel, both regionally and internationally, had been an important part of Sally’s pre-farm and my pre-covid life. Covid constricted travel for a time and made most travel modes more risky.
I was concerned for my younger sister—increasingly isolated, farm-bound, and economically stressed. Letters and phone calls did not make up for being unable to visit, but they were the best we could do. I’ve written a good bit about gardening, which I’ve done, on a smaller scale than Sally’s farm, for most of my life. Our mutual connection to the earth also served to connect us to each other.
In one way or another, we are all gardeners. Whether we tend a windowsill plant, thousands of acres, or just “plant” encouraging words, we each do our part to enrich the soil of this resilient but fragile planet.
Friday, May 1, 2020 (Beltane/May Day); from Jinny in Cary, NC to Sally in Taneytown, MD
Dear Sal,
This year’s “May Day” is as much about international distress signals as any international labor celebrations, it seems to me. Covid so far seems be outstripping any of our efforts to contain it. Glad you seemed to be doing better in this week’s Sunday evening phone call. I’m glad you got my check, and hope a larger government check will reach you soon if it hasn’t already. Covid hasn’t been easy on anybody. I’m sorry you’re pretty much stuck at the farm for a while. I admire the way you’re pivoting to try to provide additional food during this growing season.
The general lack of U.S. political leadership concerning the virus has been galling, though it has seemed to me that the governors of our respective states—Cooper in North Carolina and Hogan in Maryland—are being somewhat more level-headed and effective than most. Many state governors of both political parties are doing their best to coordinate responses to the pandemic, sharing information and resources. Some have grandstanded more than others. Nobody seems to me to coordinate less or grandstand more than our sitting president. His pronouncements bother me. On March 13, 2020, some (perhaps hostile?) news outlets quoted our President as saying “I don’t take responsibility at all.” In late March, U.S. case numbers surpassed those of any other country. So much for our stellar health care system. We don’t have enough tests, enough protective equipment, enough knowledge of how the virus spreads or how to protect ourselves. I’m probably preaching to the choir. Sorry.
Just before our library system closed up tight, this bookworm had a chance to check out one more set of books. During the next weeks, schools closed. Grocery stores posted reductions in opening hours. When I went to our local garden shop to get spring planting supplies, all the checkout clerks were wearing gloves to avoid contact with either patrons or cash register keyboards. Cash was no longer welcome most places—touch-free credit cards were much preferred. Our county officially went on lockdown as of March 27.
Supplies of wood and of plexiglass have dwindled as banks, groceries, hardware stores, and most other small businesses jury-rig barriers and enclosures to try to protect their employees from contagion. For a while, neighbors and friends disinfected incoming mail and waited several days before touching it. Same with groceries. Restaurants struggled to adapt—how can one mask and eat at the same time? Most are now “take out only.”
Searching out what covid humor I could online, I came across this dirge for the millennial generation, which includes your son Alex and most of the cousins:
“Millennials have had it rough—a terrorist attack ushered in our teen years; as we became adults there was a global financial meltdown; when we started parenthood there was a global pandemic. We’re pretty worried about middle age.” Perhaps more truth than poetry, though I’m not sure that the challenges of millennials outstrip those of our grandparents’ cohort or of other earlier generations during unsettled times.
News has become even scarcer and more biased—many reporters are in quarantine or are self-isolating. I’ve been learning more about video conferencing platforms like Zoom, and having virtual conversations with others working on increasing voter turnout in this fall’s elections. We’re sending out thousands of postcards to intermittent voters.
I can now attend “virtual” church, and have been sampling services at both of the churches I previously attended in person. I’ve borrowed a neighbor’s sewing machine and am learning how to make cloth face masks. Somehow we’ll get through this. Please take good care. Talk with you again on Sunday. Lots of virtual hugs!
Love, Jin






