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May Day

Sailors in a foreign port get a late night start to their next voyage.
Just settling into their departure routines, they’re at first flustered by the
Flickering of the ship’s lights, then alarmed by more serious
Malfunctions. Their pilots issue an international distress call, then
Desperately drag anchor to try to avoid lumbering into a major bridge.

Young girls in frilly frocks, some with flowers in our hair,
Dance around a maypole, skipping in and out,
Weaving intricate patterns with suspended colored
Streamers as we twirl in the iridescent sunshine.

Distress calls and maypole dances—
Mayday! May Day!

Life Plans A to Z

According to an essay I wrote in eighth grade, I wanted to grow up to become an airline stewardess or a simultaneous translator for the United Nations or a circus trapeze artist. As I got older, I began to realize that these initial dreams were unlikely to get fulfilled, at least not in the way my thirteen-year-old self had imagined. I might need to create alternatives. 

For starters, stewardesses (the profession then was almost entirely women) were required to have 20/20 vision without eyeglasses. In those days before the availability of contact lenses, my severe myopia would disqualify me as a prospective flight attendant. Later in high school, I began to meet other students who had been raised bilingually. It gradually sank in to me that my simultaneous translation prospects were slim. Regardless of how much I studied, I was unlikely to become as proficient as others who’d learned two languages (or sometimes more) from birth. Finally, although I’d been a “queen of the jungle gym” in elementary school and loved going to the circus, I began to appreciate how much additional training I’d need to reach professional level on a trapeze. I also noticed that over time circus crowds were getting sparser. More and more “big tops” were folding. 

So I began formulating “Plan B’s.” Even if I couldn’t become a stewardess, I might be able to arrange other ways to travel widely as an adult. I might not be able to do simultaneous translations, but perhaps I could teach foreign language skills to those with less exposure than I had. I might not ever become a circus entertainer, but I could create verbal sketches and skits to amuse people. 

By the time I completed college, I’d had my first international work experience—preparing and selling Belgian waffles at a bilingual snack bar at the 1967 World’s Fair in Montreal, Québec, Canada. I’d enrolled in an advanced program to get a teaching credential for French language instruction. From Montreal, I’d sent a summer’s worth of weekly humorous travel sketches to our small-town Maryland newspaper. 

I was about to become a newlywed, at a time when American young men were susceptible to being drafted into the military. Some of them were then sent to participate in a far-off war in Vietnam. A few days before our wedding, my groom-to-be got his notice to report for induction into the army. Rats! Time for “Plan C.” 

My only future brother-in-law was already serving in Vietnam. Worst case, my future husband might soon join him. Knowing my tendency to “awfulize,” I figured I could keep my stress level somewhat in check by staying busy. I applied for and got a part-time clerical job in addition to my full-time academic course load. 

Several weeks later, a surprise phone call from my now-husband relayed most welcome news: a minor congenital back abnormality had reclassified him as less fit for military service. He could return home and resume his non-military career. “Plan D” found both of us happy to be together, but very, very busy. I made it through a hellish school year of teaching beginning French to 187 rambunctious adolescents, then embarked on “Plan E,” what turned out to be a lengthy career in commercial information systems.  

Over the course of the next fifty years or so, I fulfilled additional alternate versions of my adolescent dreams: for a couple of years in my thirties, I was on the staff of the U.N. in a French-speaking African country; in my forties, I created holiday programs spoofing local politics for an area non-profit; in my fifties, I survived a serious health scare partly by becoming more adept at yoga and a graceful Asian exercise practice called “qi gong.” I also traveled widely and spent multiple semesters teaching English as a foreign language in rural China. 

At my current life stage, I get much incoming mail either promoting various burial services or suggesting worthy causes I should include in my “estate plans.” As the end of my planning alphabet approaches, I face ongoing uncertainties and anxieties, including pandemics, climate change, massive human migrations, escalating housing costs and homelessness. My coping skills are sometimes challenged. I hope that younger generations will expand newer coping tools and use them wisely. 

Should anyone ask, I’d suggest that it’s great both to have dreams and to have some “plan B’s” (and C’s, D’s, etc.). Life is apt to adjust your original plans over and over again.     

Recentering

I have a somewhat strained relationship with mobile phone directions apps. On the one hand, they can be helpful in navigating in unfamiliar locations. On the other hand, they can be infuriatingly obtuse at honoring my preferences for places I mostly know how to get to (limited or no freeway use, as few left turns as possible, a generally direct route toward my destination). The most aggravating circumstances of all are when I lack just a little knowledge at either end of the trip. I’ll be in dense traffic in the right lane when the annoying app voice tells me “in 800 feet, turn left.”  Not going to happen. 

Sometimes I’m able to adjust quickly enough to resume following the app’s instructions. Say, for example, there’s an almost miraculous break in traffic. At other times,  there seems to be no way to adjust my driving to match the app.  So I tootle along semi-lost, somewhat relieved that I’ve allowed extra time to reach any  appointments with a set schedule. After a while, the app will display a message, “recentering,” then attempt to find me an alternate route to my destination based on where I currently am. 

Given the present political and media climates, both in the U.S. and globally, I need to practice “recentering” often in other aspects of my life. This can involve insulating myself temporarily from most external distractions of our too often noisy lives. It can be hard to get away from the noises of airplanes overhead, leaf blowers nearby, or a neighbor’s next home improvement project. (I need to remember to be grateful that the noises surrounding me are generally benign—not bombs, not bullets, not blaring sirens.)  It’s nearly always possible, though, with some effort, to find a time/place for quiet contemplation.

Both Christian and Buddhist faith traditions have evolved forms of centering. Christianity focuses on our communication with what we call God. Buddhism stresses non-attachment to external stimuli. I doubt that I’ll ever become totally adept at either practice.  Still, I’ve found that taking a breather (sometimes literally focusing on my breath) can help me be less overwhelmed by what’s going on around me. 

Perhaps the phone directions apps are onto something.  

Layered Allegiances

It’s nearly the end of 2023, a time for looking back and for looking ahead. I’m grateful to have made it through another year with most of my faculties intact. I’m blessed to have a warm, supportive network of family and friends. Over the holidays, I’ve managed to spend some extended family time in person and to avoid an excess of media. I’ve (mostly) avoided discussing politics, but still have heard the word “polarization” more times than I care to count. 

I like to think that many of us, despite all the rhetoric and doom-saying, are more centrist than otherwise, with overlapping multi-layered allegiances—to family, to work group, to neighborhood, to profession, to age-mates, to craft groups. To varying degrees, many of us also affiliate with politically oriented groups at various levels. I think it does us a disservice to try to reduce anyone to a single level of allegiance, politically or otherwise.      

Nonetheless, our current “in between” media environment, an evolving mix of broadcast, print, and internet-driven content, is surfeited with polling that purports to pigeonhole us by political allegiance and/or some aspect of our demographics. I could make a bonfire with all the pieces of campaign literature I’ve received warning of the end of the world if “the other side” wins. Though checking boxes on surveys may relieve a few of my frustrations, it does little to create or reinforce connections. Indulging my anger may feel righteous for a time, but it likewise does little toward solving problems. Nuanced discussions and concerted actions are needed and seem in short supply.

Many years ago, I applied to the United States Peace Corps. Once accepted, I was offered a two-year assignment with a United Nations agency, providing technical assistance in an economically struggling country. Over the course of the recruitment process, I was asked to affirm my allegiance both to the U.S. government and to the principles of the U.N.  This was at a time during the 1980’s when there was serious talk of cutting off U.S. support for many international organizations. (Echoes of the same tendency are again current.) 

I crossed my fingers that there would not be a serious conflict between the stated purposes of the U.S. and those of the U.N. I wondered where my allegiance would lie if such a breach occurred. Luckily, it was a choice I did not have to make. I think my assignment helped persuade some of my in-country coworkers that there was more to Americans than bellicosity or arrogance. The work done by our multi-national staff made a small but positive impact on the lives of the mostly peasant families we interacted with. Once my assignment was over and I returned to the U.S., I bought two flags—a U.S. flag and an “earth flag,” showing our blue-green planet as viewed from space. On holidays, I gladly flew both. (An image of the earth flag is on Wikimedia Commons as File:Earth flag PD.jpg)  

Unless our lives have been exceptionally tranquil, we’ve sometimes been faced with potentially conflicting allegiances. What seems dangerous to me about our current era is that much of our public sphere seems intent on collapsing the many overlapping layers of allegiances of healthy societies into strictly “us versus them” categories.  

I draw some solace from a recent experience of our soccer playing granddaughter. The school league in which she plays consists of several smallish secondary schools. At a recent game, the opposing team was short a couple of players at the start of play. It would have been perfectly acceptable, per the league’s rules, for our granddaughter’s team to claim a win by forfeit. Instead, our granddaughter and another player with friends on both teams added a layer of soccer jersey and played for the “opposing” team until enough of their players arrived to complete the rest of the game “normally.” I doubt anyone kept very close track of who “won.”   

So here’s a wish that your 2024 will be multi-layered and nourishing, that you’ll have chances to experience some of the “win-win” results that can come from recognizing how multi-faceted and interconnected all of us are. 

Tangled Missions

Strung like beads near California’s coastline,
they are remnants of earlier Spanish settlement.
In some places abandoned, at others almost frenetically active,
they speak to the tangled history of our area.

Following Columbus, Spanish explorers and soldiers
took hold in the southern and western parts of
North America, eventually becoming “New Spain.”
At its height, Spain’s colonial empire spanned three continents:
parts of North and South America plus islands in Asia.

Physical mission settlements were a later offshoot, 
founded during the late 18th and early 19th centuries
by Franciscan missionary brothers who sometimes supported,
sometimes contested the soldierly establishment.

Politics and religion got further entangled—when Mexico gained
independence from Spain in 1821, some missionaries
returned to Spain voluntarily. Others were expelled.
Over time, most mission lands were gifted to wealthy
Mexican families. Mission buildings fell into disrepair.

Following a war, a gold rush, and further immigration, California
gained U.S. statehood in 1850; in 1861, the United States fractured.
During the period of the U.S. Civil War, some missions
again became church property. Some church buildings got rebuilt.
Some religious orders returned. Schools were started. 

From San Diego to Sonoma, with mission sites a long day’s walk between,
these twenty-one enclaves along the Camino Real commemorate
our confused and confusing history–no universally good or bad guys,
no historically consistent ownership. Indigenous people sometimes
benefited, but sometimes were burdened by disease, maltreatment,
even slaughter. Crosses now stand sentinel. Bells ring a reminder:
Few of our missions are ever neat or complete.

postcard of California’s missions

California missions (from north to south): 

Sonoma, San Rafael, Dolores, San Jose, Santa Clara, Santa Cruz, San Juan Bautista, Carmel, Soledad, San Antonio, San Miguel, San Luis Obispo, La Purisima, Santa Ynez, Santa Barbara, San Bonaventura, San Fernando, San Gabriel, San Juan Capistrano, San Luis Rey, San Diego. 

Benny the Auto Mechanic

Benny the auto mechanic is a major bulwark in my personal transportation system. A skilled, seasoned repairer of older (and newer) vehicles, Benny keeps my aging gas-powered sedan running smoothly and efficiently. After a 2021 move to California, I was fortunate to get our first annual “smog check” at the small nearby auto shop where Benny now works. I was even more fortunate when Benny returned to the shop after a while away. His coworkers put up a big banner, “Benny’s back.” Since his return, Benny has completed regular routine maintenance plus a couple of fairly major repair jobs on our car.  

In the area where I now live, the transition to electric vehicles and other transportation options is accelerating. Still, it will be a while before our family finances and electric capacity will accommodate a next-generation car. My guess is that this is the case for many other families. In the meantime, we need the Bennys of the world to tend our aging personal transportation. Whatever the newest automotive trends turn out to be, we will always need their skill and their wisdom. We need, too, the reminder that manual work skillfully done is just as important as “knowledge work.” Often, it requires just as much knowledge, anyway. 

Our family tradition includes maintaining cars, aided by skilled local mechanics, until they can’t be driven any more. My mother’s Plymouth Valiant became the stuff of legend. A 1963 or 1964 model, it was the little car I learned to drive on—manual transmission, three forward gears plus reverse, small enough to be easier than most to parallel park (a real boon during every teen’s nightmare back then: the road test to qualify for a driver’s license.)  

The Valiant survived two early accidents, repaired by our local small town mechanics, back in the days when insurance claims were much less formal, repair delays much less severe. As it reached middle age, the Valiant served in turn as my sister’s, then my brothers’ “learner” car. At some point, our family drove it on a vacation to New Hampshire, returning with the proud bumper sticker, “This Car Climbed Mount Washington.”  After that trip, my mom drove the car for nearly a dozen more years. As the original paint chipped or rusted in Maryland’s weather, she did a yeoman’s paint job with wall paint that nearly matched the car’s original color. Her brush strokes, she thought, just added a custom touch. Later, she decided that vinyl contact paper would better serve. 

The day finally came, though, when the salt and slush of successive Maryland winters proved too much for the little car. Mom took it to her local shop, Just Rite Motors, after she noticed yet another rust spot, this time a see-through area in the floor of the trunk. 

“Can you do one more weld for me?“ she inquired.

After a brief inspection, the mechanic reluctantly responded: “Sorry, ma’am, but there’s no longer anything to weld to.” The Valiant, its faded bumper sticker still intact, was sadly dispatched to the car graveyard.

My first car in adulthood proved incompatible with city living. Though I had access to good mechanics, courtesy of a friend’s father, living in Baltimore apartments required expensive and/or inconvenient parking options. After a frustrating year of rising pre-dawn to move the car from one side of the street to the other to accommodate city alternate-day parking restrictions, I sold my little Chevy II. For the next year or so, I relied on local public transportation, friends, walking, or an occasional train or long-distance bus. Then my husband and I moved to Vermont. We bought a true fixer-upper of a house at the edge of Montpelier, the state’s small town capital city. We found we needed a reliable vehicle with enough storage capacity for frequent trips to the local hardware store, the lumber yard, the town dump. 

We acquired “Fred,” a brand new cherry red Datsun pickup truck. Fred served us well through much home repair work, three moves, a long road trip, and then the arrival of children. With a second child imminent, we realized we’d require a bigger vehicle as a backup “family car,” but we were unwilling to relinquish Fred. He’d become almost a member of the family, with his own personality. Once they were vocal, our kids would argue over who got to ride on local errands in Fred. 

By a dozen years and over 100 thousand miles after purchase, Fred, too, had rusted pretty badly. The passenger side door would no longer open from inside—whoever sat in the passenger seat had to wait for the driver to walk around the truck to let him/her out. The original clutch had been replaced, twice. When the third started to slip, we acknowledged it was finally time to let Fred go. It took a while for our kids to forgive us. 

It’s getting more and more practical to manufacture cars and trucks that are less reliant on fossil fuels and friendlier for the environment. Eventually their prices will come down. Someday I hope to own (or lease) an all-electric vehicle of some kind. In the meantime, I’m so very grateful for auto mechanics like Benny and the crucial, important work they do to keep our existing pre-electric vehicles functioning as smoothly and efficiently as possible. 

On Being Granted Three Witches…

It’s a little past Hallowe’en. Images of “wicked witches” are fading from our consciousness for another year. Our recent understanding of witches has undergone something of a change, abetted by a modern Wiccan movement. Performances such as “Wicked,” a musical retelling of the Wizard of Oz story from the point of view of two witches, have also reminded us of the “good witch.” It’s been my good fortune to have become acquainted with three very good witches, three benign elders, since I moved to southern California in 2021. 

The first good witch I encountered was Anne, a spritely octogenarian with a halo of blue-white curls. When I first met her, Anne was presiding over a large table of other elders at a summer neighborhood gathering of a “village,” a mutual help group for over-50’s who want to continue to live in their own homes for as long as possible, rather than moving to assisted living facilities. Anne was one of the original members of our local group a dozen years ago. Listening to some of Anne’s stories, I learned that she had spent time in China, a favorite travel destination earlier in my own life. I asked if I might meet with her one-on-one to trade stories and to learn more about her China experiences. She graciously acceded. As it turned out, Anne’s China stay had occurred mostly before I was born. She was a school girl in Shanghai and then in Chongqing from 1946 to 1948 while her naval officer father was an advisor to the Chinese military. Anne’s life experiences are quite different from mine—a Navy daughter, then a Navy wife to a commander who served during Vietnam, a conflict I had protested as a young woman. Anne raised a large family while moving from military post to post and adhering to her Roman Catholic faith. My guess is that her opinions on reproductive freedom are different from mine. However, she has never tried to proselytize or to foist her views on me. She has expressed that aspect of her faith mostly through work with charities and social service agencies in support of adoptive parents, support often badly needed.   

My next good witch encounter was with Carolyn. As I oriented myself to our new environment by walking around, I was pleased that our “planned community” of about 700 houses had pleasant walkways and little traffic. A couple of small shopping strips bracketed the complex. A nearby public recreation area had both indoor and outdoor athletic facilities. Near the top of the closest hill was a cluster of churches. One morning as I explored the grounds of the local Lutheran church, I noticed a fenced garden behind the main building, with numbered raised plots and a small sign identifying it as a “nature friendly garden.” No one was around. I opened the garden gate and walked through the area. At one end were a small red shed and a small greenhouse. A couple of wrought iron lawn chairs were pulled up in front of the shed. The place looked well tended. I gradually made it a regular part of my walking routine. Several walks later, I came across Carolyn, who was tending some of the many plots she cares for. She’d opened the padlocked shed and was ferrying garden tools and containers back and forth as needed. She finished what she was doing, then took a break to chat. 

“This garden has been my sanity refuge during covid,” she told me. “Outdoors, so less virus-prone, and still able to provide a service to the community.” She explained that most of “her” beds contained vegetables planted for use at T.A.C.O. (Third Avenue Charitable Organization), a downtown San Diego drop-in center for the area’s homeless and lower income residents. On Thursdays, Carolyn ferried fresh produce from the T.A.C.O. beds to the center to be included in the following day’s lunch. She’d been doing this since well before the pandemic. Given the disproportionate impact of the pandemic on those already struggling, she felt it was more needed during covid than ever. 

“It’s amazing what the cooks can do with whatever I bring,” she said. “Sometimes we have mostly zucchini, other times it’s tomatoes, or carrots, or broccoli, or cabbage. Some of the other gardeners contribute their extra veggies as well.” Carolyn isn’t shy about her age—mid-80’s. She complains that she’s slowing down, but she can still heft a flat of squash or spade a garden plot with more energy than most of us, whatever our ages.

Ellen introduced herself to me by phone before I met her in person. She’s the doyenne of volunteers at our local public branch library. One of the restrictions of pandemic lockdowns that hit me hardest was the closure of area libraries. As soon as infection numbers waned enough so that libraries reopened, I visited our nearest branch, checked out as many books as I could carry, made a small donation, and signed up as a “Friend of the Tierrasanta Library.”  Several months later, Ellen phoned to ask if I might be available to help cashier for a two-hour shift at the used book sale she and others arranged in the library’s conference room during the first weekend of every month. 

“Sure,” I said. “Do I need to bring anything?” 

“Just yourself. You’ll be working with an experienced volunteer who can show you what to do.” Ellen, too, complains that she is slowing down. Well into her 80’s, she’s had one hip replaced and is due to get the second one done next year. At the end of a day’s work, she has a noticeable limp. She doesn’t let it deter her much. 

For over thirty years, it turns out, Ellen has been raising money for the library and spreading the love of books throughout the community. Over the years, she has refined a system that supplies extra children’s books at no charge to a nearby military housing complex.

Not long after arriving in California, I passed the midway point between 70 and 80. I’m slowing down a bit. Aging has brought different challenges than earlier life stages. One of the hardest for me is balancing self care with care for the wider community. Initially constrained by covid and by my general lack of knowledge of how this part of the country works, I’ve been inspired by the lives of my three good witches. Anne, Carolyn, and Ellen are not native Californians, either. They’ve all passed the 80 year milestone. Their adaptability and continuing active participation shine forth. Somewhere near here there are adoptive families with better coping skills thanks to Anne; someday a needy person is getting a more nutritious lunch thanks to Carolyn; in some child’s room someone is reading thanks to Ellen. 

My skills are not exactly the same as theirs. Still, I can write about them, mimic them as much as I can, encourage others to follow their examples.

. Who are the good witches in your life?  

Fear Sells, Until…

Half a dozen years ago, on a spring weekend, I went to Washington, D.C. with a small group of peaceful protesters to try to encourage more transparency in campaign financing, along with less influence from huge, often difficult-to-trace donors. I also wanted to network with younger activists and to support wider participation in our democracy. I attended workshops, met with old friends, made new ones, at one point joined a group in a march around the Supreme Court building. 

Later that same year, I attended a ” Decision 2016” rally in Raleigh, North Carolina, headlined by Franklin Graham, son and putative heir to crusading evangelist Billy Graham. 

The constituencies at the two events had little overlap, but themes of fear and “othering” invaded both—at the first, fear of big corporations and wealthy individuals coopting our democracy, at the second, fear of losing our religious underpinnings as a society. Sometime during that year, I bought a small lapel button: “Fear sells, until you stop buying it.”

These days, all sorts of groups all across the political spectrum are trying to sell me fear. Rarely a day goes by when I’m not assaulted by some internet or other media outlet explaining why “others” are destroying the world as we know it, why everything will be lost unless I (choose one or more): 

donate, 

demonstrate, 

denigrate, 

desecrate, maybe even 

detonate. 

I’m willing to participate in the first two, but strongly oppose the final three. 

It’s gotten so intense that I’m inclined to stand on its head the advice of 1960’s countercultural icon Timothy Leary—rather than “turn on, tune in, drop out,” I need to “turn off, tune out, drop in.” This retooled advice fits with my somewhat uptight nature, but I believe is also an appropriate response to our current societal turmoil. The combination of media frenzy and a lingering pandemic caused by a pathogenic virus have left too many of us feeling isolated and in dread of what’s “out there.”

When the cacophony of disparate media voices gets too loud, I find ways to distance myself, even from those opinions I mainly agree with. I “turn off and tune out”: silence the television; ignore the internet; switch off my cell phone. Often, I go outdoors. In addition to lessening the likely danger from viruses, spending time out in nature helps me to experience once more my minor role but valued place in the grand scheme of things. Once away from traffic and mechanical noise, I can think, perhaps reconsider, remember to honor the humanity of those with whom I disagree.  

I can ponder what my own fears are and how I can buy into them less often. At root, I’m afraid sometimes that the surface fractiousness of our human societies is all there is. I need to take intervals to drop into the deeper reaches of my nature, to reconnect with the underlying wholeness of the cosmos. 

The relative isolation of pandemic life has given me multiple chances to experience this deeper connection. I’ve had a hiatus in which to face some of my fears and to strengthen my resistance. As I gradually free myself from fear and isolation, I can participate more fully and more effectively in joint actions to make long-needed changes to the ways humanity has organized itself. 

Fear may occasionally still sell to me, but its market share is dwindling. 

Diaspora

Horrified, we watch the bombs fall,
The buildings crumble. Another
Round of refugees flees
Across artificial borders,
Seeking some sort of
Sanctuary.

Observers or participants, we carry
Revulsion as baggage. Perhaps,
We feel an aggrieved resignation.
Fear, loathing–why such destruction
Mischaracterized as conquest,
Again?

So many have fled our birthplaces,
Impacted by overt violence,
Or, having survived more subtle
Pressures, hunting for better
Lives elsewhere.

Wherever our homeland,
Whatever our current location,
Our wanderings began at birth–
Expelled or pulled from the womb
Once it became confining and
Uncomfortable.

We’re all part of a human diaspora,
Pilgrims, seekers, strangers, yet
Inescapably kin.

Sooner or later, whether
By war, accident, injury,
Illness, or old age,
Our diasporas
Will coalesce.

Each of us will return to earth.
We’ll be subsumed to oneness,
All of us once more at
Home.

On to Kyiv, and Then What?

Like many globally in this media-saturated world, I’m distressed about the ongoing invasion of Ukraine by its larger neighbor Russia. For weeks, we’ve seen reports of a buildup of Russian troops and military equipment along the borders with Ukraine. Now it seems that troops and equipment are on the move and a full-scale invasion has started. The aim, as nearly all American pundits and experts tell us, is to topple the existing Ukrainian government and to install a regime more to Russia’s liking. 

This is a scenario that has played out countless times throughout history by whatever superior military power desired to dominate its neighbor(s). The United States of America has not been immune to using such tactics, despite our protestations of “spreading democracy,” and so on. 

Problems can arise in the aftermath of a military conquest, as we’ve seen most recently and tragically in contemporary Afghanistan. Conquering and governing are two rather different domains. Once a new regime gets installed, who repairs the infrastructure that’s been damaged or destroyed during the conquest?  Who provides the basic necessities—food, clothing, shelter—to a cowed, needy, and probably sullen civilian population?  Who firms up borders and stems the outflow of brain and talent of those eager and able to leave? Who works to reduce the likelihood that resentments will fester and eventually result in further armed conflicts when the balance of military power shifts?  

I’ve never traveled in Ukraine. Prior to the current war, my main point of reference to Ukraine was the 1986 nuclear meltdown at Chernobyl, a now-decommissioned power plant near the Ukrainian/Russian border, about 70 miles from Kyiv. Much earlier, I was taught courses in Russian language and culture by a college professor who’d escaped from Ukraine during the final days of World War II. When “Dr. K.” taught us, the Union of Soviet Socialist Republics was near its height, the Cold War was raging, and the availability of non-official information about conditions in any socialist republic was severely limited. As our language facility in Russian improved, Dr. K. showed us articles from the Soviet press that glorified the Soviet state without mentioning any possible problems. 

An ancillary point of reference to things Ukrainian: I’d learned to recognize a musical piece, “The Great Gate of Kiev.” I liked the somewhat ponderous music, but didn’t make much effort to visualize an actual gate. It turns out that there was not actually a “great gate” when composer Modest Mussorgsky wrote his piece during the late 19th century. The Kiev-related piece was the final composition of a suite called “Pictures at an Exhibition” that featured an artist’s rendering of what a memorial gate might look like. It would have celebrated the survival of Tsar Alexander II after a failed 1866 assassination attempt. In much earlier times, there had been a gate, erected during the 11th century reign of Yaroslav the Wise as part of city fortifications. (Per the sources I referenced, an actual memorial gate was reconstructed in Kyiv in 1982 by a then-waning USSR.)  

The impulse to conquest seems to be part of our human heritage, from the earliest cave dweller with a bigger club, through the desolation wrought by 1940’s era fire bombings and atomic bombs, through the 1990’s Rwandan genocide conducted mostly with machetes, plus all the other “more conventional” weaponry used before and since. If we are to survive as a species, it seems to me that we need to cultivate more assiduously a countervailing impulse to nurture. The members of the military I know best and most admire are much more eager to assist after natural or man-made disasters than they are eager for combat and conquest. The ongoing disaster of our current global viral pandemic, plus the slower-moving planet-wide disaster that is climate change, can use all our ingenuity and empathy. These and other disasters call out for the greatest exercise of our nurturing sides that we can muster. 

If or when Kyiv “falls,” then what?